I'm playing manager mode and I'm about 13 games into the Premierleague season and I haven't played a single English cup/league cup/ecc game... don't tell me EA have left those competitions out?

You have to qualify them after your first season. They are definately in there cause you can see the standings of the ECC, etc.

ok, so the english cup (facup) and league cup will come after 1 season ?

no...league cup is not in the game but english cup (FA Cup) is...and you will play english cup the first year but first in the second half of your season champ! go to the menu that says fixtures and results and then u can select english cup as on of them by clicking RB or RT on the pad...cant remember which one it is!