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Chas Denonno - A Referee's Journey

Psyatika

Reserve Team
17 Sep 2005
Scheduled for three matches, one as AR and two as Centre (i'm now in a combined league which is considered U19, by the way). In these games, generally there isn't enough time to brief the ARs before the match, which turned out to be to my detriment in match #1.

Team A vs. Team D. In the seond half, Team D, leading 2-1, takes a shot on goal, and from my perspective (head on, about 15 yards from the play), it looks like a defender instinctively puts her hands to her face to stop the ball hitting her, hits the ball, and just lets it drop whilst someone else kicks it away. The AR waves his flag, and i know why he's waving his flag, and i wave him down. He shakes his head no and puts the flag down, and i signal that i'll explain when i get a moment. If i had time before the match, i would have told him to let me handle all PK decisions (which is common practise among officials), but since i didn't tell him, he signalled for it, and i waved him down. From his angle, it looked like the player reached out to the side to control the ball with her hand, but for me it looked instinctive, and the player didn't try to gain an advantage (she didn't try to play the ball after deflecting it).

Surely enough, with one minute to go, Team A scores the equiliser on a brilliant through ball and individual run on a counter attack (the attacker appeared offside at first, but she was actually in her own half of the field when the ball was passed, nullifying the offside). Match ends 2-2.

The AR whose PK i waved down was not very pleased with at the end of the match. I should also mention that his daughter is a forward on Team D. Ohwell...i've seen worse handballs in the box go uncalled (i'm looking at you Diego).

In my second match, i was Assistant Referee. At this point, i should mention that earlier that morning, it rained and was generally cool. By the time my first match came along, the temperature had soared to over 30 degrees Celsius (for the Yanks in the audience, it was about 95 degrees Fahrenheit). That field was hot, and steamy. That said, i thought i had prepared myself well for the season.

I hadn't. I cramped up during the first half. I survived the remaining 15 minutes or so, and then asked to be removed at halftime. So i took a rest for the remainder of the match, so i could be ready for my third match, which was immediately following this one. I don't care what you say, i still get a cap! Just think of it as a 46th minute substitution ;)

So i took a break and stretched, and felt perfectly fine by the time my third match was to begin. Now, i was told that this was an U14 match, but these girls looked a bit older than 13...i certainly would not put them up against the teams i saw in my first game, whom i know are U14. Anyway, in addition to being larger than i thought, they were also mouthier than i thought, and one in particular was much lazier than a footballer should be, taking her sweet time on goal kicks in the first half (she was playing defender). The team took forever getting onto the field to start, but they weren't kicking off, so i warned then that i would start play in 30 seconds, and consequently started play before they were fully organised. I gave the back 4 and goalkeeper a general warning about taking too long on the goal kicks in the first half, to which the particularly mouthy one replied with a "friendly" abuse. Later on, the same mouthy one decided to kick the ball out of play on two consecutive plays, and argue that she didn't kick it out both times, to which i replied with a "friendly" warning. By halftime her team is already down 4-1.

Second half, the slow team now is kicking off, and are taking forever to get on the pitch, but they manage to successfully get two players onto the pitch who are willing to take the kick off, so i warn the team that i will make the two players conduct the kick off in 45 seconds, and if they delay the kickoff, i'll be forced to caution the player taking the kick. The players continue to stroll onto the pitch, with the mouthy one now playing goalkeeper and nowhere near her goal. 45 seconds passes, and the mouthy goalkeeper has barely made it to the penalty area, so since her team is kicking off anyway, i blow the whistle. These matches are on a very tight schedule, so i can't let them waste the league's time. Mouthy keeper spend about 3 minutes yelling at me from across the field about how i'm required to wait for her to say she is ready (that is a myth; the referee may wait for the goalkeeper, but doesn't have to when it is clear they are wasting time). I urged her to contact the league administrator about my irresponsible behaviour. It is no coincidence that said league administrator regularly starts matches with only one team on the pitch if the other team is taking too long to get ready, so i'm not too worried about any consequences! Anyway, mouthy goalkeeper actually keeps a clean sheet in the second half, but her team only gets on goal back, and it ends 4-2.

Besides the cramping, good start to the season. I won't have any games this weekend or next, because i am off to England! My next match will be 8 October. See you then!

Career Appearances:
Referee: 73
Assistant: 34
 

barthez4

Senior Squad
95°F... ouch...

Your career sounds great. I wish I had taken reffing courses, but I won't really have time now, and it won't be beneficial to do it this year (my senior year of high school).
 

TheBlueBalla

Starting XI
Nice resource man. I am a fledgling ref, though clearly not on your level, for indoor/outdoor IM games at my school. Im not very good though :jap:

Anyway, this is a great read that i'll definately check up on to see about any tips and the like...
 

Psyatika

Reserve Team
Thanks for the comments everyone! Much appreciated!

8 Oct 2005
The league website apparently didn't update in my browser cache, because despite the person who updates the website claiming to have put a weather cancellation up, there was no such warning on my screen at 8:45am when ileft the house (the first match scheduled in the league is at 9am, so surely they would know by then if they are cancelling games). So i spent 2 hours travelling to my field, only to find out that my games were cancelled.

Apparently i wasn't alone, as the head referee's daughter ALSO saw no such weather warning, and also showed up to the field. Ohwell...sorry for the non-update, but people don't like to play in the rain here...

I guess i could mention that i updated my caps list because i had never actually reported a U8 match i did last year. Yes, i did ONE U8 boys match, and it was the cutest thing i had ever seen. One team was short on players, and everyone on the other team absolutely refused to change teams (apparently team spirit is big among 7 year olds). Finally they agreed to have one boy change teams in each quarter. I don't remember how the match ended, but i do remember that i could barely stop myself grinning throughout the entire match. I don't think i'm cut out to work U8 matches.

Career Appearances:
Referee: 73
Assistant: 34
 

Psyatika

Reserve Team
Sorry for the lack of updates...lots of stuff going on with me lately. Aside from classes, i've also been getting ready to start my full-time teaching job, teaching Earth Science/Geology for Year 9s (and eventually Physics; for now i'm teaching Earth Science to fill a vacancy). But of course, i've also had matches, as well as a BIG update on my promotion, so i'll get right to it.

29 Oct 2005
The matches were cancelled AGAIN due to weather on 15 Oct and 22 Oct, but finally after 5 weeks off (2 on holiday in England and 3 due to weather), i had a match in the centre on the 29th.

I don't remember much, but i have my match report, so i do know that it was Blue v. Red, Red went down 1-0 early, but equalised making it 1-1 at halftime. Then the floodgates opened. Red scored in the opening minute of the second half, 1-2, though Blue would score three in a row, including one player completing her hat trick to make it 4-2 with 15 minutes remaining. Then out of nowhere Red makes their comeback, the equaliser coming off an own goal in the final 10 minutes. That own goal totally deflated the Blue team, and they ultimately lost 6-4. One of the assisntant referees in this game is the guy who would eventually perform my assessment.

I also had a match with the same guy as an assistant in the 5th, though i remember nothing about it...

12 Nov 2005
This was the week of my (and another referee's) assessment. We did each other's games as ARs so that we could both have a full team. Anyway, for my match i read the Assessment checklist for promotion to Advanced Referee (one promotion ahead of mine) to make sure i would fulfil all the requirements. I had two of everything, i even wrote down my pre-match instructions to the ARs on the back of my data sheet so i wouldn't forget anything. I actually liked this idea so much that i plan to make a laminated card to carry in my pocket with my pre-match instructions on it, just to use for all my matches.

Anyway, the match went smoothly, except for one little incident where the ball had gone out of touch and a player kept insisting that her team would get the throw, but i and the AR both agreed that her team touched it last, so she tossed the ball onto the field about 15 yards. I called her over, spoke to her briefly (she said she was throwing the ball to her cousin who plays on the other team), and cautioned her. I recorded it as dissent, though i guess it could have also gone in as delaying the restart, doesn't really matter. That team won the match 3-0, and my assessment went quite well.

Since i'm sure you're dying to know, the complaints against my refereeing were: my goal kick and corner kick hand signals look similar (i point straight ahead to the goal for goal kicks and point upwards and at the corner for a corner kick, which i guess could look similar from certain angles...in any case i shout quite loudly what the restart is as well, so the players are never confused), and I stay on my diagonal a bit too rigidly, when i should stray from it as the ball gets nearer to the goal area to be in a decent position to see goal mouth action.

The assessor liked that i talk a lot on the pitch (when there is some contact, or a player goes down, but there is no foul i shout out "fair challenge!" or "all ball!", and it's always obvious when there is a corner because i shout "CORNER!" loudly enough for everyone to hear. He also liked that i make decisions quickly and look like i mean it, so it makes it hard for players to try to argue or question, since i seem so sure of the call.

In any case, i passed, and on November 14th, 2005, my AYSO Intermediate Referee Certificate was issued. I now qualify to cross-register with USSF and officiate in paid matches!

19 Nov 2005
This was a particularly rough day, as i had my Praxis (national teacher certification) exams that morning, from 8:00 to 12:00 (i get the results next week, by the way). Anyway, i was still signed on for two matches in the centre and one as an AR, so i made my way to Central Park from the World Trade Centre area and did my matches. In my first match i ended up cautioning the same girl that i cautioned last week, this time for handling the ball in the penalty area. To be fair, she was the goalkeeper in the first half, and probably just had a bit of a lapse of judgement, because she literally jumped up and caught the ball, then realised her mistake and looked right at me. I cautioned her because she prevented an opponent from making a fair play for the ball, but i could not send her off for denying an obvious goal scoring opportunity because the ball was not on its way into the goal (to send her off, i would have had to believe that the ball was going directly in from the corner kick, which is a tough arguement to make). In any case, the penalty kick sailed wide, the girl who was cautioned went on to score later in the match, and they won 2-0.

My second match in the centre was the late match, bitter cold, sun setting, but we managed to get through it as it ended 4-3, the winner coming with 5 minutes remaining in the match.

Now i prepare for the Winter season complete with my new badge (which i will scan a pic of as soon as possible). I've truly come a long way since my last Winter Indoor season, when a division rep in Brooklyn took a chance on a complete stranger to officiate 24 matches in a volleyball gym next to the Brooklyn Bridge. I'm looking forward to showing him my new badge, earning my 100th cap in the centre, and once again justifying his decision.


Career Appearances:
-Referee: 79
-Assistant: 38
 

Psyatika

Reserve Team
Thanks for reading, and thanks always for the comments!

7 Jan 2006
Opening weekend of the Winter AYSO season in Brooklyn. I'm officiating two U19 Girls matches per weekend, although this week i volunteered to also officiate the first Boys U19 match, but i left before the second started. I might do all four next weekend.

The matches weren't particularly exciting, although the Boys match was pretty good because their goalkeeper was a great player, usually coming out to help on the attack. On one play in particular he made the save, put the ball down, and immediately dribbled down the field for an attack, catching EVERYBODY off-guard, and ultimately setting up a close range shot for a teammate which was saved.

Only two things to complain about. One, a coach (who also coached last season) came up to me before my first match and asked me to run mainly on one side of the field, because apparently players were complaining that i was in the way when moving around both sides of the field. I do recall being hit by a few balls last year, but they were always from frantic clearances where the player clearly wasn't aiming in any particular direction, and this being a small indoor field, the chances of me getting hit are increased. But in any case, i skewed my runs a bit to be more to one side, moving toward the middle as the ball got near the goal.

As a result, i ended up missing what might have been a goal during one match. The ball rolled away from the keeper after a save, to the line, but the keeper stopped it from going completely over the line, from what i could tell. I looked over at the sidelines to get the parent's reactions, and since they weren't jumping up and down screaming (either for or against), i just said 'no goal' (not that i would let spectators influence my decisions, of course). I doubt it went completely over anyway. But if i had just ignored the coach and did what i wanted, i would have been on the goal line to see it myself. Oh well...i don't think i'll be camping off on one side next week...

Second complaint, this one much easier to deal with. The AYSO indoor rules for this division state that there should be a "goalkeeper box" outlined by blue tape, 8 feet wide and 8 feet long, in front of goal, where only the goalkeeper may play. When i got to the field, it was clear that the U12s weren't aware of the correct size requirement, and put down boxes which were about 10 feet wide and 12 feet long. I ended up just using their boxes, and had to disallow a couple goals because players kicked the ball while it was over the line. There probably would have been no infraction had the boxes been the correct size. Anyway, i checked with one of the higher-ups at Brooklyn AYSO (who is also a referee), and he agreed that i may have the boxes corrected. I have plenty of blue tape, so i could just do it myself.

Anyway, more matches next week, and i might just get around to cross-registering with USSF soon :)

Career Appearances:
-Referee: 82
-Assistant: 38
 

Psyatika

Reserve Team
Now that i have regular internet access again, i can make regular updates instead of the mass updates that i have been posting. Plenty of matches, but i'll just give the highlights.

14 Jan 2006
First match was quiet, until the last 7 minutes, when all 4 goals were scored, Team C went up 1-0 with 7 minutes remaining, but then Team A scored three in a row, including one at the death, to win 3-1.

The second match was a bit more exciting. Teams D and B (B's matches are always close...it's quite exciting). B was up 3-1, until D scored two in the final 13 minutes, including one at the very end of the match to draw 3-3. I personally didn't have anything overly crazy to deal with in either match.

21 Jan 2006
First match was a bit silly. In AYSO indoor rules, players are not allowed into the goalkeeper box, which is 8 feet by 8 feet in front of goal. This one player just would not stop waltzing into the box! After the fourth call i gave her and the other players near her a warning about watching the line. After the 7th one (by now it's the second half), the player decided to get frustrated with me for calling it so many times, so i gave her a pesonal warning that she needs to calm down, and another incident in the box will leave me little choice about a caution. She did it again, but i let it go. She did it AGAIN (now nine times), so i finally went over to her and told her she was receiving a caution for persistent infringement (and then i told her that it was for repeatedly disregarding the rule about staying out of the box. She seemed confused when i said "persistent infringement".). She changed to goalkeeper for the fourth quarter, and shouted to me that i can't call her for being the box anymore, but she was smiling as she said it, so i just smiled back and let it go.

Her team lost, 4-1.

Second game was much closer (it was Team B again). It was 4-1 with 20 minutes to go, before Team B quickly scored two to pull within one. It was a fast game from that point on, until Team A put the game away with two minutes to go. Team B scored at the very end to make the scoreline a better reflection of the match, 5-4 to Team A.

I also did one Boys match on this day, fairly fast-paced match. Green team levelled the score at 5-5 with 2 minutes to go as Green's #13 scored a hat trick, but their opponents in Red scored the winner in stoppage time, 6-5.

28 Jan 2006
Team B couldn't keep their match close this week; they scored a late goal to end their match in a 3-1 defeat. This match had a rather negative highlight though.

There is an extremely talented forward on Team C. There is a defender on Team B who is clearly a novice player. The Team B defender used to have a tendency to swing her arms wildly when challenging for the ball, or would be unable to stop herself when the ball is already gone, so she gets more foul calls than most other players. I always talk to her at halftime of each of her matches to explain what i'm calling and what she could do to perform better tackles. I know it's not my job to coach, but she is a beginner and her coach doesn't appear to be giving her any advice on the matter.

On the bright side, she definitely doesn't hesitate to get stuck in, and she is improving by leaps and bounds. Unfortunately, she is also easily intimidated, and her opponents have decided to start exploiting her tendency to fade away when confronted. This match was the first time that i completely noticed it.

Extremely talented Team C forward is dribbling up the left. Novice defender for Team B goes for the tackle, gets some of the ball, but loses her balance and ends up holding onto the forward, who gets past her anyway and continues her run. I yell for the advantage, forward takes a good shot that just lands wrong side of the near post. The forward suddenly goes back to the defender and screams "Damn it, stop holding me!". I'm having none of that, and go and give her a talking to, but i don't show a card, partly because i understand her frustration, partly because the game had been going fairly smoothly until this point, and partly because it would have been hard to justify giving only an Unsporting behaviour caution (if i were to give a card, it would more likely be a red for abusive language). In this care i figured a lecture would work a little better. Her coach is livid, and is now shouting at me that i am warning the wrong player. He shouted literally the same sentence about 5 times before the ball went out of play again and i halted proceedings to give him a warning about staying positive and not making this game any more difficult than it has to be. He stopped harassing me at that point.

About three minutes later, and i notice that the novice defender is just standing over at one corner of the field, crying. I alert the coach that i think the player is injured (which would then allow her to be substituted under AYSO rules), and she comes out of the game. At half time, i gave the forward and her coach a fairly long talk about intimidation and staying positive, and then talked to the defender, who ended up coming back in and finishing the game. Kind of a sad moment, but we got through it. I don't think higher level referees get the types of problems i do :)

4 Feb 2006
Nothing out of the ordinary. Team B avenged their previous loss with a 6-1 victory this week, and the other match finished 4-2.

I'll give the update for this past weekend (including an update on when i'm scheduled for my 100th cap!) in the next post.

Career Appearences:
-Referee: 94
-Assistant: 38
 

Psyatika

Reserve Team
11 Feb 2006
Ended up with two Boys games and my regular two Girls games. The Boys games were, as usual, frantic, as shown by my final scorelines of 10-8 and 11-8.

The first of the two Girls games wasn't particularly exciting, but the second one has to be Match of the Year contender so far for me. Black vs. Blue, (Black is that "Team B" from my previous posts). Black goes ahead 3-0 in the first half, before Blue gets one back right at the end of the first half. It looks like it's going to be 3-1 at halftime, but Black score a 4th literally just a few seconds after Blue scored their first. Then Blue started the march back into the match, before having their hopes dashed when Black scored to make it 5-3 with 5 minutes to go. Blue wasn't about to give up though, and made it a quite exciting finish, even pulling to within one goal in the final minute. But despite 5 minutes of stoppage time (i'll explain), the scoreline would remain 5-4.

Now, the excessive amount of stoppage time in an indoor match: in my previous post, i talked about the beginner girl on the Black team, who teams have begun to single out. Well, surely enough, it happened again in this match, only this time it wasn't a foul that triggered it. She was given the task of marking Blue's best striker, and actaully was doing quite well, playing very physical, but legal, defence. The player she was marking, however, wasn't thrilled with defender's fighting spirit, and began get frustrated in the second half, with plenty of pushing between the two of them. Simple enough, make the players aware that i'm watching them closely, on one restart in particular i delayed proceedings to have a word with both of them simultaneously, and then stood about 5 feet away from the two of them on that restart. But then the Blue player decides that the best way to avoid any further trouble is to switch sides with the other striker. Perfectly reasonable strategy, except for one thing.

She just would not shut up about it! She had to make a big announcement of it when she came up with the brilliant idea of avoiding this particular defender, and whenever the defender and she would end up near each other again, she would immediately yell out that she has to get away from the defender and tells her strike partner to switch sides again.

The defender, once again, is distraught by it all, but at least this time she just plays on instead of disappearing into a corner. From that point on, however, she wouldn't get quite as stuck in as in the first half, and it showed as Blue was able to creep back into the match as a result (despite trailing for the entire second half, Blue had almost all of the possession, and were dominating up front, save for the Black goalkeeper's amazing performance).

During the quarter break, i was informed by the division head (whose daughter was the phenomenal goalkeeper) that we had plenty of time until we had to leave the gym, so feel free to let the game go longer than usual. Considering his team was leading by two goals, i took this as geniune. But instead of just arbitrarily making the game longer, i decided to HEAVILY extend the quarter break, as the second half was getting very heated. Generally the watch keeps running during the quarters, but when we have plenty of time between games as we do in this league, i let the clock run but add the time on at the end. During the long break, i gave a talk to Blue's coach about the striker and the intimidation tactics, talked to the striker about the tactics, talked to the defender to make sure she was alright, and to remind her that she has been making good challenges for the ball and doesn't need to change anything, and talked to her coach (well, the division head actually, who was acting as her team's coach today) about the intimidation tactics i was noticing from yet another team against the same girl.

The last quarter of the match was just as intense, so i started to slow the game down myself by calling the match more strictly. I'm part of the "referee should interfere as little as possible" school of thought, and as such i tend to let the players play, but in this match i was calling fouls that i generally don't call in other matches. Not to say that i intentionally ignore fouls, or that today i was calling fouls that weren't there, but in this particular section of the match i decided to take a VERY strict interpretation of the laws. Whereas i generally call about 6-8 fouls in a typical match in this league, i ended up calling at least 6 in this quarter alone.

On the bright side, we got through a very exciting match with no cautions, and at the game's conclusion, both sets of spectators gave the teams a LONG standing ovation as a sign of appreciation for their efforts, something i have never seen in an AYSO match. I definitely look forward to hundreds more matches like this one :)


Now, as promised, news about my 100th cap in the middle.

I'm currently on 97 matches as a Centre Referee. I'm scheduled for two matches on 25 February, but i generally could get Boys matches whenever i want. So i intend to officiate in the second Boys U19 match in the morning, so that my last Girls U19 match in the afternoon would be career appearance number 100! I sent an email out to the three assignors and two mentors i've had to give them the good news, since i can't really think of anyone else who would actually be happy about the accomplishment and understand its significance to me.

Anyway, i'm off this week...no games scheduled due to the holidays. In just 7 days, i will have reached a milestone. It might not be much, but you can be well sure that i'm proud of it.

Career Appearences:
-Referee: 97
-Assistant: 38
 

Psyatika

Reserve Team
25 February 2006
Finally, the day of my 100th appearance as a centre referee! Apparently, today i'd have to earn my way to number 100, as my 98th and 99th matches were....well...the best word to describe them would be, "WTF?!?!?"

Match 98: Boys U19s. Red vs. Yellow. I only brought red and yellow referee uniforms, but the red team was wearing more of a maroonish-purple kit, so i got away with the red. Anyway, the match is going fairly well, until the second half. First, a Red player unsuccessfully tries to save the ball from going into touch, and his momentum takes him off the field. Instead of stopping and returning to the field, he keeps running, opens a door, and goes to a water fountain for a drink of water. WTF?!?! And then he tries to walk back onto the field while the ball is in play! Fortunately as he was about to re-enter the field the ball went out of play, so i was able to deal with him. I told him that he needs to let me know if he plans on randomly taking a break (they just had a two minute break between the third and fourth quarters, so why he needed another break i have no idea).and cautioned him for leaving the field of play without permission. He's one the team's best players. You'd think a U19 would know something like this by now.

It gets worse. Two minutes from the end of normal time, a player hoofs the ball high into the air. So high, in fact, that it hits the ceiling, and dislodges a tile, which is now just hanging from the top of the field. WTF?!?! I look up at it a few times whilst the ball is still in play (ceiling is in play for this field), and when the ball next goes out of play, i take a closer look, and decide that it's too dangerous. I suspended the match, saying that we won't be restarting until the tile is removed, and i found a building employee and asked her to see about having the tile removed. The coaches and parents wanted the match to continue, but of course they would, as they are not held responsible if the tile falls and kills someone. That would be my responsibility, and i refused to put the players in that sort of danger. The players asked me if they could try to knock the tile down with a ball. I refused to answer, but i did tell them to leave the match ball alone. They interpreted that as "let's use any ball that isn't the match ball", and after 4 minutes, they were able to knock the tile free. I, of course, saw none of this because i had my back turned, arranging for the tile to be removed by proper authorities. Nor did i give the players any advice on how to properly hit the hanging tile. Really, i didn't. You could ask them.

So the tile fell, the field was cleaned of debris, and we were ready to get started again, with 6 minutes remaining. Now the coaches suddenly want the match abandoned. WTF?!?! I saw no reason to go through all of that, and the players wanted to play, so we finished the match, and STILL with 5 minutes to spare before the next scheduled match!

By the way, Red won, 9-5


Match 99: Girls U19. For an introduction to this match, i bring you back to 28 January, the first time these two teams met:
28 January said:
Extremely talented Team C forward is dribbling up the left. Novice defender for Team B goes for the tackle, gets some of the ball, but loses her balance and ends up holding onto the forward, who gets past her anyway and continues her run. I yell for the advantage, forward takes a good shot that just lands wrong side of the near post. The forward suddenly goes back to the defender and screams "Damn it, stop holding me!". I'm having none of that, and go and give her a talking to, but i don't show a card, partly because i understand her frustration, partly because the game had been going fairly smoothly until this point, and partly because it would have been hard to justify giving only an Unsporting behaviour caution (if i were to give a card, it would more likely be a red for abusive language). In this care i figured a lecture would work a little better. Her coach is livid, and is now shouting at me that i am warning the wrong player. He shouted litereally the same sentence about 5 times before he ball went out of play again and i halted proceedings to give him a warning about staying positive and not making this game any more difficult than it has to be. He stopped harassing me at that point.

About three minutes later, and i notice that the novice defender is just standing over at one corner of the field, crying. I alert the coach that i think the player is injured (which would then allow her to be substituted under AYSO rules), and she comes out of the game. At half time, i gave the forward and her coach a fairly long talk about intimidation and staying positive, and then talked to the defender, who ended up coming back in and finishing the game.
Team B (Black) once again facing Team C (Green). The match goes fairly well and without incident for the most part. Novice defender for Team B is not assigned to mark extremely talented Team C striker today, and is instead given a slightly easier task, which she handles fairly well, except for a few fouls i called on her. I had to stop and talk to her for about 30 seconds after one in particular, because she seemed rather distraught afterwards (it turned out she was hit on the lip and thought she was bleeding. When i assured her she wasn't, she felt a little better).

Anyway, fast forward to the final minute of the match. Team C (Green) is leading 6-2. Team B's novice defender ends up finally crossing paths with Team C's talented striker, and sucessfully clears the ball away from her, not without a firm (but fair) shoulder charge. Team C's striker responds by kicking her square in the stomach. I am NOT making this up! Completely out of nowhere, she KICKS her in the stomach! WTF?!?!

Naturally, Team B's defender is doubled over on the ground. I had no choice but to send off Team C's striker in the final minute of the match for violent conduct, and now she misses the last game of the season. After issuing the red card, i just end the match. Team C's players and their parents were of course trying to defend their star player. One of the arguements was that Team B's defender had been kicking her all game. Which might be believeable, had i not been paying particular attention to the interactions of these two specific players, and knew for a fact that they had not come into contact with each other at all in the match until this incident. The next arguement was that she fouls a lot. Which is true; i called her for more fouls than everyone else in the match combined. But to be fair to her, out of every 5 strong challenges, 4 of them were fair. After ALL of her challenges, i either shouted out that it was fair, or blew the whistle for a foul, so it was always clear what my opinion of her challenges was. She was called for the most fouls because the other team kept hoofing the ball in her direction hoping for a mistake, so she was responsible for making just about all of her team's tackles. Arguements aside, i was not going to budge on the violent conduct call. The division head told me that she would miss the next game, but if i recall correctly, when a player is sent off in AYSO, they are suspended indefintely and have to petition to AYSO to be reinstated, so i'm checking with the head referee administrator just to be sure.

Do i even want to know what lies in store for match 100?

Well, as it turns out, my actual 100th match went very well, no problems whatsoever. Blue vs. Orange. Orange scores just 1 minute into the match, but Blue replies 5 minutes later. Then both teams' defences took over, with nothing else happening until the death, when Blue scored the winner in stoppage time, 2-1 the final score.

I have to say that i've never had a crazier string of matches. It's like the gods of football decided that i had it too easy in my first 97 matches, and wanted to make sure i was scarred a bit before hitting the century mark. On the bright side, i was applauded at halftime in the last match because someone had given everyone else the word that i was in my 100th match, so that was a nice moment.

One more week of this crazy league, and then i have to decide whether i'm staying in Brooklyn or going back to the Upper West Side.


Career Appearances:
-Referee: 100
-Assistant: 38
 

Psyatika

Reserve Team
4 March 2006
Final week of the Brooklyn AYSO Winter season. This day definitely started off on the wrong foot. I walked 20 minutes to the train station, and got on the train, where i normally begin writing the standard information on my data sheets so that they're ready for match time (and some non standard information; for example, in addition to the start time for the match, i also write down when the second half would start, and when it should end, just in case i mess something up with my watch). I reached for the pencil in my front pocket...whoops...i forgot to bring it with me.

In fact, i had taken everything i needed to have on me and put it on my dresser, but then ran to do something else and completely forgot to take any of it with me! That includes: my AYSO badge, yellow and red cards, BOTH of my Fox 40 whistles (i carry two), and my AYSO coin. Fortunately, i have backups of everything, even a backup for my backup whistle, so i was able to cope. I wore my old Regional referee badge since i only have one Intermediate. My third whistle, however, is this thing called the Acme Tornado. It is seriously the worst whistle in existence. It used to be my backup whistle, but i can't stand it so much that i had to replace it. If you take anything from reading about my experiences, take this: don't EVER buy an Acme Tornado!

Anyway, the matches were all fairly straightforward. One oddity though, and i wonder how often this actually happens: i had an own-goal in ALL THREE of my matches! In the first one (Boys U19), the goalkeeper spilled a shot and, in his panic, swatted the ball into his own net. His team ultimately went down 9-4.

The second i actually don't remember much about. This was the match with the team whose player i sent off last week. Her coach (who is also her mother) apparently couldn't be bothered with the rest of her team, because she showed up about 20 minutes late, and her team only had three players at the opening whistle. They ultimately borrowed two players, including a male goalkeeper. If not for his brillaint play in goal, Green would have probably lost big. Instead, it goes down as a 2-2 draw.

The third own-goal was actually a brilliant shot (but aren't all own-goals?). Orange player (Girls U19) took a hard cross (which may have been a shot) and poked it first time into the top corner of the net. Keeper had no chance. If she had done it on the other end, it could have been a contender for goal of the season.

This was the match with the player who was kicked last week. I have to say, she has progressed by leaps and bounds in these last few weeks. She still plays very physically, but nothing illegal. Whilst she did commit a couple fouls, she was mostly successful in this match, even tracking up to the midfield to make some key passes. At one point the striker she was marking was getting frustrated, so i shouted out, "it was a clean challenge, you have to be stronger than that" to let her know that i'm not going to penalise someone simply for being bigger than her opponent. This particular striker is also very physical, and likes to bounce off of defenders. Today, however, she tended to bounce a lot harder than she is apparently accustomed! She was particularly annoyed with the fact that she couldn't bully this defender, because this defender was just as physical. Fortunately, nothing escalated in this match, and the striker in question scored a brace in the second half to earn a 6-3 win with her team.

Well, i suppose i'm on vacation now. Brooklyn has made it abundantly clear that they want me back for the Spring season, which starts for them on 9 April. I suppose i should see what the West Side Soccer schedule is going to look like in terms of how many matches i'm going to get (they begin on the 1st of April, unless they're trying to trick me), and which fields i'll have to travel to. I think i'd be disappointing a lot more people if i don't report to Brooklyn than if i left the Upper West Side. Hopefully i'll have a definite plan in the next couple weeks. Thanks for reading!

Career Appearances:
-Referee: 103
-Assistant: 38
 


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