The Dating/Courtship Thread

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  1. ShiftyPowers

    ShiftyPowers Make America Great Again

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    I never wore one of those, but I definitely squeezed myself into a novelty Chippendales thong in the past.
     
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    This story reminds me of Mike "the situation"
     
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    Chacarita Juniors The artist formerly known as ronnifan9

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    I'm actually quite the gentleman (seriously, no bullsh*t), I was just being rebellion. (H)


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    I've got a case of one-itis which i am trying to ditch, can't really avoid her since she practically sits in front of me at work.

    Worst part is she's smitten over a douchebag instead.
     
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    Still beating myself up for not making a move last Saturday. I seriously need to grow a pair.
     
  6. Sir Calumn

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    I thought that in Scandinavian countries you just had to sit back and the women did all the approaching?

    That sucks man. In most walks of life, the worst you can get for propositioning a girl who doest like you is a look of disgust and maybe a slap, in the workplace you can get fired and a sexual harassment charge :(

    I still dont think it's fair that I cant harass women in the workplace, just a little bit.
     
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    If only.
     
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    All girls are smitten over some douchebag. Even if he's a stand up dude they'll tell you he's a douchebag to win over your sympathy and attention. GAME.
     
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    She wasn't interested what a waste of time, game over.

    Girls can't live with them can't live without them.
     
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    I can live with them.
     
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    I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out, but it might just be for the best. I would not recommend to anyone getting romantically involved with a colleague - even if she felt the same - but that's just my personal opinion from my own very recent experience, if that's any consolation to you bro.
     
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    It just so happened, Heartiste made a post (kinda) about this the other day for all you guys who get stuck with oneitis

    http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2012/12/24/the-undercover-orbiter-strategy/

    If you get ensnared in an asexual friendship with a girl you like, this is your only hope. I'd say that two most important steps are 1) Practice your teasing on her and 2) If/When something ever does happen, you must dump her before she can get around to "letting you down easy".

    Note that this article assumes that you are chasing other women. Even if you only have eyes for that one girl, you must still chase other girls just to seem like a normal desirable guy around her, and not some weird loner.
     
  13. Sir Calumn

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    You see I've never seen the point in that, falling for a girl who aint interested in you, because even if you are successful eventually it will only be through manipulating and tricking her which means you would always feel like she didnt really want you. Tricking a girl into bed is fine, into a relationship not so much. In my experience just telling her straight out that you want to fuck her doesnt do any harm, even if she says no (which she will first time) she'll be secretly flattered and you can stll continue being friends if thats what you want.

    I wouldnt recommend this approach to a work colleague however as workplaces have ridiculous things called sexual harassment policies.
     
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    If it makes you look like a classless macho-douche like that would, then yeah it does do some harm, lol.
     
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    Hehe not that I am one, but you will notice those are usually the guys which get laid the most
     
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    LOL. This is what a Beta says. Sir_Didier_Drogba is right; while an outright proposition is hardly an ideal way to game a girl, it doesn't really hurt you.

    Sir_Didier_Drogba, I agree with your point and have tirelessly told people to forget about their oneitis, however "it's not tricking her, she just doesn't realize how perfect we are for each other!"
     
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    I've had a pretty bad case of one-itis for 1,5 years. Indeed, I agree with what you say but when you're in it you don't want to hear it/listen to it. You'll experience what it's like (or maybe you already have I don't know). The only one that can get you out of it is yourself, not somebody telling you you should not feel what you feel.

    About playing the alpha male macho, it can work but only if it suits you. I find that nothing is more repulsive to women than those that fake it too obviously. If you're not made to be a macho, it won't work trying to act like one. Instead make due with what you have. In fact, playing the intriguing mysterious 'beta' male from time to time can do wonders too. I can tell you that from experience. Also depends on what women you're hitting on, I suppose.
     
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    I think "macho" is getting lost in translation to me, or several of you. The mysterious Beta doesn't get any pussy ever because he doesn't put himself out there. Girls don't approach guys, so being reserved and meek is not attractive. Mysterious is only a good quality if you drop hints that you are interesting, not if your entire personality screams "loner who posts on Soccergaming"; this is done mostly through body language and non neediness, but also letting it slip about cool things you have done, including other girls. But that's not beta.

    By macho, I mean adventurous, risk taking, bold. Not a big, loud, obnoxious asshole. Sir_Didier_Drogba, for example, is bold and risk taking by personality, but his Hugh Grant English stereotype game isn't what I think you guys are calling "macho".

    Big, loud, assholes don't get laid either, by the way. They are much more likely to say that they are, but girls don't fall into the arms of assholes the way you guys seem to think. People most like those who they aren't sure if they like themselves, but you can't do this by just withdrawing completely and being a "mysterious beta", you have to be active and cool, and the term is "push-pull". We made out, but he didn't text the next day. He forgot my birthday, but cooked for me randomly. Girls drive themselves crazy trying to figure these guys out, which is why they call them assholes, but they aren't assholes, they just have other priorities than cowtowing to the every need of someone just because they are female. And the fact that they have other priorities in life than someone they don't even know that well is attractive.

    Anyway, in my beta days I, of course, suffered from oneitis too. It's stupid. Men fall in love way harder and easier than women do. You'll be shocked at how quickly you fall out of love with a girl you've never touched when you're dating a cute girl that you have sex with.
     
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    I think I agree with most what you say there. But I think you misunderstood me a little. Being a "beta" male doesn't necessarily mean you can't be self-confident. Generally if you show a girl too much what you want from her you take away the tension and she won't want you. Being a little mysterious and intriguing therefore can work pretty well. Like I said the role you play got to suit you. It indeed doesn't take away from the fact that you have to be self-confident and all of that. But you can only be that when you yourself are comfortable with who you are. Just my two cents on this, not trying to give any unwanted advice or anything.

    Oh and every man, alpha or beta, falls in love. That happens to everybody.
     
  20. Sir Calumn

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    Ha Shifty pretty much covered it all but I should add if you think there is anything loud and macho about anything I do ever (other than arguing with liberals) you're completely wrong, what I meant is that it is ESSENTIAL that you make it absolutely clear from the get go that you are interested in sex or a relationship and that you are NOT interested in platonic friendship. I didnt mean whisper "I want to fuck you brains out" in her ear every five minutes (though that is not always a bad strategy!) but just make it totally clear that you are romantically interested. How you do this, well, you'd be much better off talking to Shifty because I know practically nothing about "game theory" and other such things.
     
      

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