Do you want kids?

[Mandieta6]

I really hope you have sons.

Oh, and yeah. One, maybe two.

How come? Is it the names? Or do you not trust me to have girls?

I see my-self having two or three. It's just something I see happening in my life, and me being a father eventually. I would want to start very late 20s, but that might change. I always said late 20s but now that I'm mid 20s that seems really soon.

Names: Maximilian and Thijssen.

Cool names, we should send our kids to the same school.

Yeah, my heart just melts every time my niece mangles my name to adei. I don't think it would be the same if I had a nephew. Girls are just more adorable and attached to their dads than boys are.

I get that, I love my nephews and they're both really cute, but I don't think girls are more cute than boys. They're just different. That's why I want at least one of each. That said, having a girl scares me. What if I become an inattentive father and she becomes a whore? Oh Anastasia!

 

[4ndr3i]

Yeah, I think it has to do with what one person is more accustomed with. If I had a nephew, it would probably be the other way around. Also I agree with the fact that you have to be a lot more careful with your daughter education, so stuff like that doesn't happen. It might be more work but I still want one!

 

[Theodorakis]

I wonder how CarlosDanger's baby girl grew up through these years but I don't think he'll post her picture to sg..


especially when we still have Tom lurking around..

 

[Jaboldinho]

I've always felt like I want kids at some point. Like at a really young age.

There's something mysterious going on. I've always had some sort of connection to babies, it seems. When I was in kindergarten, 5-6 years old, the toddlers were drawn to me, and I would sometimes play around with them. And since I was a little kid, and even today sometimes, I often find a baby staring at me, smiling, etc. This has happened in airplanes, trains, shops, etc. There's a parent with their baby, and I notice the baby's looking at me, starts smiling when I look back, and especially when I was young, I'd try to do something to make them laugh.

That's always felt a bit weird to me. Guess I look so laughable that even babies realize it.

 

[MaestroZidane]

My Son is about to turn 1yr old in two months, Playing with him, watching him grow, and learn something new everyday, is just the most amazing thing in life. Before my wife got pregnant, a baby wasn't in our thoughts and plans, we jut let it play out. We took care of ourselves, but during one of our great vacations, it happen, and we were happy once we heard the news from the doctor. Sure, our lives changed, no more traveling like we used to, but to see our sons smile when he wakes up after a nap or sleep, see him laugh and play with his toys, and now watching want to walk, it's heartwarming and a great joy to have. We don't plan on having a second one, but we'll see where we are in 3-4 years.

 

[Filipower]

I don't think I could bear having a teenage girl. I'd probably jump to regularcat's side on the gun thing.

 

[Back Door Skip]

I've always felt like I want kids at some point. Like at a really young age.

There's something mysterious going on. I've always had some sort of connection to babies, it seems. When I was in kindergarten, 5-6 years old, the toddlers were drawn to me, and I would sometimes play around with them. And since I was a little kid, and even today sometimes, I often find a baby staring at me, smiling, etc. This has happened in airplanes, trains, shops, etc. There's a parent with their baby, and I notice the baby's looking at me, starts smiling when I look back, and especially when I was young, I'd try to do something to make them laugh.

That's always felt a bit weird to me. Guess I look so laughable that even babies realize it.

 

[Keegan]

How come? Is it the names? Or do you not trust me to have girls?

The names. Oscar, Bastian and Leopold don't work for a girl.

 

[Mandieta6]

Mascara, Bastiane, Leopoldia. Fixed.

 

[Stevie B]

I've got two boys; they're now 23 and 20 (where have the years gone? Noodling around on here, that's where!)

Interestingly enough, they have kept me feeling young and I still get involved with them and things they are interested in like The Victory Show http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sz5rf7p3peg

 

[Sir Didier Drogba]

I am disappointed you didnt sign them up with SG accounts on their 14th birthdays.

I used to think I wanted to have kids at 30, but that is only 5 years away now, so bollocks to that.

 

[Alex]

Hahaha, that's what I'm like. I always thought thirty. Now I think maybe 35? Any later and I'll be pushing it

 

[Sir Didier Drogba]

I mean I think it would be fine to have kids at 40 EXCEPT that means when they leave home you will be 58 (and 62 by the time they finish uni and get jobs) which is just too old.

 

[Alex]

I mean I think it would be fine to have kids at 40 EXCEPT that means when they leave home you will be 58 (and 62 by the time they finish uni and get jobs) which is just too old.

Exactly. Being 61 at their twenty first, being 58 when they finish high school etc. Just feels too old to me

 

[Sir Didier Drogba]

That is one thing to be said for having kids at 20, you will still be under 40 by the time they leave home and able to either still enjoy having sex with your wife or able to attract a younger more attractive replacement, even if you have not gotten rich. I would want the couple of years after my kids leave home to be a blur of travel, sex and hedonism which you cant really do at 62.

 

[jschuck12001]

Kids aren't for everyone, I'm not an elitist but the reality is there is too many dumb people having kids and its a great strain on our nations economy in several ways. I would say at least 40% of people who have kids (This is based on nothing more than what I see) are poor parents and probably don't have the parenting skills necessary to nurture a child that will become a productive citizen one day. Having a child and raising it properly is probably the hardest thing anyone will ever do in their entire life.


My family is a great example, I have 2 sisters both about the same age. Sister 1 is a very aggressive go getter who didn't have kids until she was 32 since she was career orientated and had her own business right out of college. Her husband is the VP of sales for a very large US corporation so they are financially stable and have been for some time even before they had children. They have 2 kids now and both excel as scholars and in athletics and even more they are articulate and understand how early decisions will affect them down the road. Then you have sister 2 who married at 20 years old and had 2 kids immediately. Sister 2 and her husband were never financially stable and if making bad decisions was an Olympic event they would both be gold medalists. Sister 2 and her husband lacked common sense and they both showed immaturity and bad decision making in their own lives before they had kids so its no shocker that both kids have struggled to find their way as they are undisciplined, lazy, and have no understanding of responsibility or the value of a dollar. One of them is now 18 and failed his senior year 2 times finally graduating mostly because the school no longer wanted to deal with him and the other just turned 17 and has had to attend summer school after her freshman and sophomore year and is currently failing her junior year, did I mention she came out of the closet as a lesbian recently.


I could fill this thread with theories on education and socioeconomic status and how it affects families and their children but I'm not going to as this is what I have witnessed not only in my family but throughout my life. Of course there are hard working blue collar families that have successful children as I was raised by a single mom who didn't make much or have much until she remarried when I was about 12 years old but she was a tough woman who worked multiple jobs to provide. Maybe there is a gene that some have and some do not and this gene predisposes some to be good parents and some to be failures. Is it related to education, financial status, or having a 2 parent household? Well I don't know but on the lighter side I really think people should have dogs for at least 3 years before they have kids. If your like my neighbor and your dog is constantly getting out of the yard, or you cant take your dog to Petsmart or the dog park without causing a scene because your animal doesn't have basic social or behavioral skills then chances are you will fail when it comes to raising a human being.

 

[Sir Didier Drogba]

Can you go back and put paragraphs in so I can read it without my head hurting?

 

[jschuck12001]

Can you go back and put paragraphs in so I can read it without my head hurting?

Sorry, I'm at work and I busted this out rather quickly.

 

[Back Door Skip]

I admit it wasn't an easy read, but overall a great post. I agree pretty much with it.

If the people that weren't fit to be parents were neutered, this world wouldn't have half the problems we currently have.

 

[Mandieta6]

But then we wouldn't have reality TV or Lee.