How to talk to girls you are in love with?

[INFESTA]

Originally posted by Gareth
Oh well, update on the Chick at work. I told her I loved her, then she kissed me. Now she doesn't know what to do. I don't know what to do. She has a bf, so it's a really sticky situation.

I know I usually bag Gareth time and time again, but this time it's all hats off to him - way to go, dude!
Follow your heart and have the balls to make a move on the girl!

Even if things don't turn out well, it's always better to risk than to let the chance slip away and wonder for the rest of your life what could have happened...

 

[Gareth]

Originally posted by INFESTA
I know I usually bag Gareth time and time again, but this time it's all hats off to him - way to go, dude!
Follow your heart and have the balls to make a move on the girl!

Even if things don't turn out well, it's always better to risk than to let the chance slip away and wonder for the rest of your life what could have happened...

Thanks Infesta... I think. Yes, thanks

Well that's why I told her I loved her, I didn't want to because I only knew it would complicate things. But then I knew I wish I had if I didn't tell her.

Major problem is that she has a bf of 3 years, but he has cheated on her twice, so that is a thorn in her side.

Make a move? I will have to see how things go. We live a fair way apart so going over for the night is not the most economical.

 

[jackie4]

I say slip the hand and if u don't get slapped then YOU'RE IN!!!!

 

[Gareth]

Why is it that people always say I should go in after sex. Sure, I'll be honest, It'd be nice, but I think my consicence would get to me seeing as she has a bf.

But if she makes the move, then well... maybe I might change my attitude.

But it's not all about sex. Sometimes it's about just loving someone.

 

[chatterbox]

You know if ya want to get chicks to talk, you should get inside my head. Not only are they tallking to me, but they are also screaming at me. Well, actually in my head, bthe only reason they talk to me is for sex so maybe it' s not the safest place for a toddler.

 

[Gareth]

Chatterbox, why do you have to bring up your dreams about dogs all the time... please.

 

[Fernandez]

is communicating using messenger such a good way?

 

[Mishkin]

Originally posted by Gareth
But it's not all about sex. Sometimes it's about just loving someone.

That's exactly my philosophy Gareth. At the moment I'm looking for somebody I can love and who will love me. Anything else is just an extra bonus I say.

 

[Mishkin]

Originally posted by fifafanv1
is communicating using messenger such a good way?

YES! it definately is. I find it so much easier to talk to people I know using messenger. I recently added this chick that I go to TAFE (Its like Uni) with. I don't have a crush on her or anything but I've spent a few hours talking to her on messenger and I've found out so much stuff about her than I have for the whole year. I don't talk to her really often at TAFE but I think after talking to her on messenger its built our friendship a bit more. I say you should find out a bit more about this chick using messenger.

 

[Fernandez]

sometimes, i'm nervous about using the send button... you speak to her for me....

 

[Mishkin]

Seriously man I will if you want me to. I'll tell her i'm your friend from school or something.
But really it will be a lot easier asking her a question on messenger rather than in person. But don't ask sudden questions, sort of build it up by asking other questions about her and making compliments. You can also follow up your conversation in person. Start talking about stuff you did the previous day on messenger. I find that sweet talking girls works the best. Always just smile around them, help them out with their problems and compliment them. It seems to work for me.

 

[Run DMB]

Well, my work here is done.

 

[bjmenge]

Originally posted by Gareth
But it's not all about sex. Sometimes it's about just loving someone.

Gareth - A.K.A. "The Knight In Shining Armor"

Seriously, mate, that's the right way to think. Follow your feelings and you'll know whether something is right or wrong. Don't hold back feelings for fear of the wrong reaction. You can't get the answer to a question without asking it.

 

[Joe]

I agree with Gareth. I won't get into my situation right now, but it's definitely how I feel, too. I'm going off to university in a week, too, and am willing to sacrifice certain "oppurtunities" that may arise. Maybe I'll realize later on the decision was a mistake, but as my friend said, even if I look back and regret it (which I really don't now), that's what life is all about: living and learning.

[All American Rejects got me in the mood to reply in this thread. ]

As for the MSN Messenger business. You just need to make sure you talk to them online the same way you do in person, if you plan to start or spark the relationship using the messenger service. If it's the other way around, then you can be as stupid as you want online. The funny thing is, my g/f types the same way she talks in person. I know I type more intelligently than I talk in person.

 

[Man Utd Girl]

well if she has a boyfriend its not ur problemn, its hers

 

[Gareth]

Thanks for the comments guys. Well this thing with the girl at work, let's just call her Ms X. Got a little weirder on Friday. It was just us 2 in the office, the sexual tension is at boiling point, but we found a way to releive it by playing a game with an orange stress ball. She'd hold it and I'd try and get it, had me hands all over her, hugging her and ****. Everything for a moment was right and everything felt great. She asked me what I was thinking, I said "I think I want to kiss you right now, but I don't think I'm allowed".

We left it at that and continued our stupid game which was just an excuse to get closer. She then said "I want to kiss you right now" I said we shouldn't because it would only complicate things even more.

She then said she was having trouble breathing and had butterflies in her stomach. She feels something for me and feels very strongly for both me and her bf, that's what's cutting her up that one of us is going to get hurt, I know it's going to be me, I knew that at the beginning. Hey I got a little bit of fun and she knows how I feel about her. So even though I am a little upset I do feel like a weight has been lifted off me.

Relationships are very complicated. We have something special and we are going to keep it and keep in touch wherever life takes us.

As for Red Lil Devil (Man Utd Girl), maybe you need to look at the situation more. If she is feeling bad about what she has done, then I feel bad about it also, takes 2 to tango and I care about her and if she is hurt I get hurt too. Think about that.

 

[Mishkin]

Don't you already have a girlfriend Gareth? You posted a pic of her once.

 

[Gareth]

I 'did' Mishkin. She is moving to Perth so we decided not to take things too far as we are going to be seperated eventually and it saves a broken heart. But we are still friends.

 

[Mishkin]

OK thanks for clearing that up. For a second I though you were cheating and therefore being hypocritical.

 

[Gareth]

Nah nah, not me. I'm back to square one again. Oh well...

Now guys, picking up... parties are a good start...lets organise some parties...