Cheating's never crossed my mind. It's just that I know how it feels to be cheated, and don't want anybody else to feel the same. It's, as many of you may already know, TERRIBLE. Harmless flirting is all right, I feel.
Theodorakis;2933885 said:
dip, this is the worst place you could ever possibly look for an advice..
well at least I like the way the thread has been shaping.. less boring..
I know that. Seeing my dodgy track record any fun-loving (read, troll) person would have been sarcastic and tried to pull one over me, but I posted this hoping someone 'wise' at least would try to clear out my confusion. I mean I wasn't very confused about this, but I needed to know what people though about LDRs. Glad that you replied.
ShiftyPowers;2933884 said:
They can work, but a few things have to be true IMO
1) You need to see each other semi-regularly. Probably at minimum like every month, preferably at least every two weeks. You can trade who makes the journey, but try to block off a weekend at least every month.
2) You need to keep your imagination and jealousy in check, and ditto for her.
3) There needs to be an endgame. You can't just do an LDR with no concrete plan to come together in the future. This seems obvious to me, but most people don't even think about it.
Also: if you can get over the guilt feel free to cheat. Just don't say anything ever.
What you said makes complete sense to me. Yes, we will see each other next month but that's like after 10 months! It's kinda scary to think about right now.
I think about everything way too much sometimes, but when I think about anything I convey what I feel without any due. Just don't want to regret anything, because I feel it is better to be upset after talking about our feelings than hiding them.
As I said, I will shift to Delhi in 1-2 years. And I do have future plans with her. I have always felt that if two people love each other they have to end up together no matter what! Maybe I am just being impractical and illogical.
Should I 'waste' that much of time, and waste all the opportunities that I will have? I have been asked out quite a few number of times even since the relationship became LDR, but I never quite warmed up to the other girls.
After hearing all of you, I feel that I should just do what I need to, and enjoy my bouts of happiness here in Kolkata, and not get too roughed up about stuff.
Everybody who replied, thanks for it. And anybody who wants to add something is always welcome.