When will you get married?

[Pogba4Now]

Alright, thought I'd ask a question similar to the "Do you want kids?" thread.

When will you get married? Or if you are already married, how old were you?

I am personally 25 and recently got married. I know this is relatively young (I think around 28 is best) but I have been with that person for 6 years and it was a very stable relationship. Besides, I have secured a good job (medical resident) and we are financially stable.

I have noticed that many of my medical school classmates got married just after graduation (most are around 25 years of age at graduation - guys/girls included). I however don't have many friends from other professions who get married this young. Any thoughts?

 

[ShiftyPowers]

There are definitely a big handful of my law school classmates who got married within a year or two of graduation, but I don't think it's anywhere close to doctors. You guys all seem to get married right when you get your license; like you think "my life is going to be shitty enough the next few years, at least I want someone to be at home when I get done with an 18 hour shift".

Anyway, my answer is the same as in the kids thread. Personally I think marriage is an outdated institution that is wildly tipped in favor of the woman, particularly when the marriage ends. The only benefit in my opinion is for raising children.

So with that said, I don't want to get married, but if I ever do it will be in my late 30s/40s if I decide I want children.

 

[jschuck12001]

Getting married in June at 31 years of age. I had a good run and I will go into the marriage completely satisfied knowing I have experienced a great deal in my younger days and wont second guess myself based on "what if's".

 

[ShiftyPowers]

That's awesome, how old is your fiance?

 

[Alex]

I've been with my girlfriend for over six years, and I'm not in a hurry to get married - nor is she.

I would like to one day though, and have thought about it much more recently.

We know where we stand with each other and feel no need to reaffirm that with marriage at this stage. But as we're getting older we're both starting to lean more towards it - especially if we end up having kids.

I think the major reason we're looking at it though is to celebrate our relationship with our friends. And I don't say that to down play what it'd mean to us, but because we both know what we mean to each other already

 

[ShiftyPowers]

I always wanted to have a wedding without getting married.

 

[davidmende]

Marriage sucks big time, it tends to ruins things. Now the wedding part, that is some piece of unforgettable entertainment, especially for the ladies.

 

[Sepak]

I'll get married when I get drunk in Las Vegas

 

[ShiftyPowers]

Yeah, I could see me doing that. My poor spontaneous wife is going to be responsible for a lot of student loan debt.

 

[jschuck12001]

That's awesome, how old is your fiance?

29, she's career orientated and she isn't overly needy or 100% dependent upon me and that's always been an important characteristic that I wanted in a woman that I would marry.

 

[#1 Stunna]

Got married when I was 25. It'll be three years this May. It just seemed right with my wife. No relationship is perfect, but damn do I enjoy just hanging out with her. We have a kid, she's 1.5 right now. Life is great for me.

Disclaimer: marriage isn't for everyone. Stuff happens. 3 couples that I know who we're married around the time I did are now divorced.

 

[Mandieta6]

I'm 21, I wanna get married in my late 20's or early 30's. I don't wanna have kids when I'm too old and don't wanna have them out of wedlock. I've always been in faovur of marriage. Even now, I'm in a committed relationship and we've been fantasing a lot about marriage and kids. If we stay together, and are stable financially and emotionally, I can see myself marrying sooner, too.

 

[MaestroZidane]

Got married when I was 26, was with my wife for 5yrs before that. Our marriage is not perfect, we fight every once in a while, but we are able to laugh about it afterwards.

And I agree with what #1 Stunna said, marriage is not for everyone.

 

[Filipower]

I never thought about it as a thing I'd like to do, and my parent's divorce definitely hasn't helped. Don't think I will, but again one never knows...

 

[Bobby]

Seeing so many people my age and younger get divorced has kind of turned me off of it. I wouldn't say "never", there could always be someone who blows me away, but it's not something I spend much time thinking about.

I'm totally willing to be a househusband to a rich woman though.

 

[Alex]

Seeing so many people my age and younger get divorced has kind of turned me off of it. I wouldn't say "never", there could always be someone who blows me away, but it's not something I spend much time thinking about.

I'm totally willing to be a househusband to a rich woman though.

That hasn't so much turned me off it, as turned me off doing it young

 

[clash]

I've been with my girlfriend with 5 years, in the end of january. We have a daughter too, but neither of us are really fans of the institution either. The social and financial aspect of marriage is not really that beneficial here and the fact that my girlfriend, and most of our friends, are from divorced/broken families doesn't makes us like it more. We have thought about a wedding though, just to pump some needed gifts from our friends and families

 

[Alex]

I've been with my girlfriend with 5 years, in the end of january. We have a daughter too, but neither of us are really fans of the institution either. The social and financial aspect of marriage is not really that beneficial here and the fact that my girlfriend, and most of our friends, are from divorced/broken families doesn't makes us like it more. We have thought about a wedding though, just to pump some needed gifts from our friends and families

A wedding here would cost more to put on than the value of the gifts you'd receive.

The socio-financial aspect of marriage here (and in quite a few countries) can generally be claimed after living together as a domestic couple for a while. My gf and I are well into that period. If we broke up, we could both easily take half the other's shit