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Seeking advice. 'bout a chick
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ShiftyPowers said:
We all have one member each. Simple anatomy... [Tcha-pum
]That depends. If you are at a bar and want to meet a girl just to have a good time the best strategy is go with Shifty's advice. Girls smell confidence and, although few admit it, they like the arrogant guy who knows what he wants and goes out to get it. Get her. Her.
It took me a while to realize that (all teenage-hood) but the results are surprisingly good. Thing is, I'm quite sure you need a certain experience to pull it off decently.
On the other hand, if you are looking for something with a little more substance than go a bit slower at first. A good house is built over solid foundations.
True, recent story: early this month I was waiting for my flight in Roma's international airport lounge and this one chick seats in front of me (most of the seats were empty). She had Da Vinci's code in her hands, opened it a couple times but did not read straight for more than 2 minutes. This is an easy call: the girl wants to talk. Thing is, what do I say? And if she does not want to talk at all? To cut it short, we are still talking on a weekly basis through emails... I might pay her a visit soon.
I honestly don't remember what I said at first, but the point is: if she wants to meet you, she'll make it easier after our initial approach.
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Disagree about building a friendship. I'm not going to say something like "maybe it's different over there" because I know it isn't, what I'm about to say is universal. You do no want to be the "Friend guy", girls don't want to **** the "friend guy", that's why you're the "friend guy" and not the boyfriend. Girls know instantly if they will have sex with you, so you'll get shot down with this approach, sure, but you'll know right away if a relationship is possible. There's nothing like becoming the friend of some chick only to realize 6 months later that a relationship was never possible. And then if you awkward it up with a kiss attempt? Yikes. The friend approach doesn't work, sorry Andrejs, but you're in a TERRIBLE position and you're not getting out of it. You're not a success story.
Yeah, well thats what I'm affraid of, the "Friend Guy Syndrome", then again I think it helps if you know the girl a bit (I know 4 months isn't a "bit" though, lol) and not just going for it cause of the looks. I'm not going to give up just yet, as she isn't your everyday mainstream chick (nor a sissy bitch 
) so maybe, just maybe she doesn't think like all the other girls do. I'm gonna meet her at a gig next week so I'll try to seduce her with some sexual moshing 
) so maybe, just maybe she doesn't think like all the other girls do. I'm gonna meet her at a gig next week so I'll try to seduce her with some sexual moshing
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Virgo
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Bollocks, I know a guy who's been in love with a chick all his life and was her best friend since they were childs, and only came out of the closet and gave it a go when they were 19 or 20.
The only way I'm going full frontal on someone is if I just want to f*ck her and she looks like the type of broad that would be up for it. No way I'm going through that path if I'm looking to build a relationship.
The only way I'm going full frontal on someone is if I just want to f*ck her and she looks like the type of broad that would be up for it. No way I'm going through that path if I'm looking to build a relationship.
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Callum
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I have been going with my girl for 15 months :chew:
friendship first is the way, dude
get that "hey, ur in my class and we never spoke" thing going
make sure she understands ur interessed in her but not exactly in a relationship, just getting to know her, no pressures
be loose, funny, aloof, like u care for her but it's not the only thing u think about. otherwise that scares them.
once ur close friends with her, eventually u'll get ur chance, trust me
as soon as you start talking to her don't get things going to fast, be patient...
get that "hey, ur in my class and we never spoke" thing going
make sure she understands ur interessed in her but not exactly in a relationship, just getting to know her, no pressures
be loose, funny, aloof, like u care for her but it's not the only thing u think about. otherwise that scares them.
once ur close friends with her, eventually u'll get ur chance, trust me
as soon as you start talking to her don't get things going to fast, be patient...
Crouchinator, my advice is you gotta try talking to other girls first. You don't seem to be brave enough to talk to a girl you like. I know it's different talking to someone you like as opposed to talking to a random female; we tend to get nervous and mess up.
I'd suggest you to gain some experience by flirting and hitting on other girls. If you're really afraid try talking to those 5s, 6s, or "friendly" girls. Once you get them to start liking you, once they start offering their own contacts to you and start approaching you, you know you're ready to approach that girl you like, you know you're ready to go flirt with the 8s, 9s, 10s.
everything takes practice, not everyone is born with suave and self-confidence, but that can be attained through practice.
And a nickname like Crouchinator isn't going to get you much love.
I'd suggest you to gain some experience by flirting and hitting on other girls. If you're really afraid try talking to those 5s, 6s, or "friendly" girls. Once you get them to start liking you, once they start offering their own contacts to you and start approaching you, you know you're ready to approach that girl you like, you know you're ready to go flirt with the 8s, 9s, 10s.
everything takes practice, not everyone is born with suave and self-confidence, but that can be attained through practice.
And a nickname like Crouchinator isn't going to get you much love.
ShiftyPowers
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Funky--K said:
Maybe I've just been blind, but my female friends don't come on to me. And not to be an arrogant prick, but it's not because I'm unattractive, it's because there's an unspoken rule that friends aren't supposed to HIT ON THEIR FRIENDS.
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Virgo
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ShiftyPowers said:
They'll never come on to you, you're the man, we're supposed to come on to them.
Anyway there's a line you can't cross in a friendship. You usually can't be her confident or that kind or they won't take a shot with you because they'll be affraid to ruin it.
You have to be that kind of friend who hangs out with her, makes her laugh and keeps hinting sometimes at maybe wanting something more than just that. She'll eventually will start finding herself attracted to you in a different way.
If she starts talking about a guy who she finds attractive or something, you've crossed the line. Good night and good luck is my advice there.
Trust me, I'm definitely not a ladies men but I know my thing, I figured it all out with too many f*cked up relationships due to inexperience in this subject in my teen years.
Virgo said:
Very true.
Don' t make your first move just before the weekend because you'll have the whole weekend to wonder about what she thinks...and she will have the whole weekend and her most likely immature friends to talk to before telling herself what to think! A Monday, however, is an unassuming day...most people expect very little interesting stuff to happen on a Monday!
If accessible, spit on a mirror about 10 to 12 times before walking up to her.
I find truth in both views.
In my opinion, and I'm speaking from my personal experience, girls know pretty quickly if they want to date you or not. They know if your're boyfriend material, a one night stand or simply her gay confident friend. So I'd say I agree with Shifty here.
However, if you want more than just making out, then I believe they'll want you to go a bit slower, build trust, take her out a couple times, etc. I don't call it being friends with her, though. You're close with her, but not necessarily friends. I have different convos with my girl friends and my girlfriends.
One important thing is to realize not all girls are alike, and what is true to one may be different to one other.
But, PLEASE, what ever you do, don't be the nao-fode-nem-sai-de-cima [something like the friend who does not make a move on the girl (although he desires it) but also can't back away and leave room for another guy], because that means you'll likely get smacked in the head one of these days by someone like me.
In my opinion, and I'm speaking from my personal experience, girls know pretty quickly if they want to date you or not. They know if your're boyfriend material, a one night stand or simply her gay confident friend. So I'd say I agree with Shifty here.
However, if you want more than just making out, then I believe they'll want you to go a bit slower, build trust, take her out a couple times, etc. I don't call it being friends with her, though. You're close with her, but not necessarily friends. I have different convos with my girl friends and my girlfriends.
One important thing is to realize not all girls are alike, and what is true to one may be different to one other.
But, PLEASE, what ever you do, don't be the nao-fode-nem-sai-de-cima [something like the friend who does not make a move on the girl (although he desires it) but also can't back away and leave room for another guy], because that means you'll likely get smacked in the head one of these days by someone like me.
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Virgo
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INFESTA said:
I meant in her eyes.
I have no girl friends nor I ever even met a girl that would be worthwhile to have as a friend without feeling the need to f*ck her brains out.
I remember seeing a quote somewhere: "Men have no women friends, they have women they haven't f*cked yet"... It's pretty much that in my case.
I know this sounds incredibly sexist but it's real for me at least. I don't mean it as a discrimination of any sort but I just have never been able to have a passionate intelligent discussion with both sides presenting completely racional views on a subject with someone of the opposite sex and I tried...... LOTS of times.