Your girl friends' girl friends

[INFESTA]

Right, this is a situation that has happened to me over the years and once again I have to deal with it. I was wondering if this is one of those cultural things that only apply to my piece of land, or it is an universal fact and hence I'll hopefully get counsel from some of you.

Here's the background: got this friend whom I know for 15 years. We've never been to close but since she dated 2 of my best friends over the years we always kept in touch. She currently lives with my best friend. I'll call her Maria and him Alberto.

Recently I've been to a gig with Alberto, my gf and another friend of ours. So this chick, who's a close friend of Maria, and lives near the town in which the concert was being held and shows up and hangs with us. She's a hottie and I'll call her Clara.
Clara, who knows Alberto quite well, tells him about how she was going to get married but her bf unexpectedly broke up with her 2 weeks ago.

This week I went out with Alberto and Maria, and mentioned how cool it would be for us to do a double date with Clara. To my surprise, Maria was super defensive and all she said was maybe. I insisted a bit later, to show I was for real, but she sort of dismissed me already, like I was trying to go out with HER.

Hey, aren't friends supposed to set up their friends? Why is she being so protective about her girl friend? She's acting as if I just wanted to take advantage of BigTits' current low self-esteem to get her in bed. Hmmm...

I've been denied dates many times before by girls who were supposed to be my friends and set me up with their friends, and this time I decided to be more radical about it. What should I do?

Just 2 important notes that should help your suggestions:
- Clara has a big rack.
- My gf and I are in an offseason.
- Clara has a big rack.
Ok, so those were 3 notes but I guess they're all crucial for this case.

 

[PhiLLer]

I hate all this crap, you can't date friends of your friends, you can't date ex-girlfirends of friends, you can't date no one...er, post some pics of her rack and I'll make my decision.

 

[INFESTA]

But there's the paradox, Phil: to get pics of her rack I need to go out with her first.

 

[mhflierman]

I'd say just do what you feel like. The girl's got a big rack that should enough of an excuse.



Did I mention the big rack is all teh excuse you need?

 

[Help?]

I would say, that it all depends on how much you like your current gf. If you had some little fight and decided to take a time off, it's not really a great reason to break up. But if you really like Clara, then why would you need a double date? You need to ask Clara out by yourself, without counselling any of your friends and go together somewhere without anybody else then. As for Maria being protective, i think that maybe she just want to be friends with you and Clara and for you two to be just friends as well. Because when people date, first of all they spend more time with each other alone and less time with their friends and then when they brake-up, they don't want to do anything together with each other, which again lives the friend that you share (eg. Maria) in a compromising situation of trying to see both of you only at different times. So Maria kind of losses when you go out with each other and when you break-up and don't want to see, hear or talk about each other.


But if you really 100% sure that you don't want to be with your gf anymore and you like Clara a lot, not just because of her rack, then you should really ask her out. Don't just go out with her because of the rack, because you might break-up real soon and lose not 1 friend but 2 at the same time. If you want a rack, then you could find someone not close to any of your friends and go out for a short period.

 

[#1 Stunna]

I hate all this crap, you can't date friends of your friends, you can't date ex-girlfirends of friends, you can't date no one...

Just live by "Bros before hoes" and u should be set Phil.

 

[Virgo]

If Maria is not into it, you should ask your friend if he knows why. But you should act on your own whatever is the reason, because Maria is just gonna be an obstacle.

 

[Filipower]

i think you really ought to...did you say a big rack?

 

[SlayerDeuS]

Don't date your friend's friends, just ****em on the side....

 

[Klobb]

This girl Clara you speak of, is her rack big?

 

[Can't stop the rush...]

Just 2 important notes that should help your suggestions:
- Clara has a big rack.
- Clara has a big rack.

Case closed.

 

[ShiftyPowers]

Uh.... she broke up with her fiance two weeks ago, give it time Hugo because honestly, they could get back together probably pretty easily, and if she's so vulnerable (and yeah, she certainly would be) you'll probably be able to take advantage of her without much effort. Maria doesn't want Clara to get boned just because she's on the rebound. I don't know why, but maybe the relationship she recently ended still has a little life left or something.

While we're on a topic like this, does anyone know a good way to try and turn a friendship into a friends with benefits situation? Because I have like 3 smoking hot female friends and it kills me to not be getting any.

 

[Help?]

While we're on a topic like this, does anyone know a good way to try and turn a friendship into a friends with benefits situation? Because I have like 3 smoking hot female friends and it kills me to not be getting any.

Only idea i can think of is to ask them to help you out with kissing or something. Like get more experience and experiment, which would improve that part of both you and her. Not much else you can think of, if you don't really want a long term relationship. Experiment is the only thing i can think of.

 

[ShiftyPowers]

Wow dude, do you honestly think that would work? I'm 21 freakin years old, what 21 year old woman would be like, "oh, you need to get more experience *******? Sure thing, I'll help you!"

Of course I have a great way that I'm dying to use to get an aquaintance to become a "**** buddy". Just start talking about sex without feelings and how it's a great concept and then just throw out this line.... "like you and me for instance, like why couldn't we just have sex, but not involve a relationship or any feelings?" There will be an awkward pause, but then the idea is out there and the girl might throw it out later, but you just can't miss the opportunity if she ever throws it out there later. Actually I suppose that could work on a friend you've known for a few years, but I kinda think they'd just totally see right through me and I'd be better off just straight up propositioning them.

 

[Help?]

Wow dude, do you honestly think that would work? I'm 21 freakin years old, what 21 year old woman would be like, "oh, you need to get more experience *******? Sure thing, I'll help you!"

Well, that's a different story then.

 

[Voltaic Borusse]

Do the two of you drink together? Move on her when she's buzzed. I know it sounds cliche, but still! But yeah, if you're going to proposition her, be as informal about it as possible. You don't want to come off as a dork or someone who is desperate for sex. Be cool about it, like if it's no big thing.

 

[hermolt]

Just live by "Bros before hoes" and u should be set Phil.

Blokes who do that are proper legends - last week my mate was in the middle of a clinch with a hottie in a bar before he glanced over and saw we had no drinks, proceeded to tell her to 'stay there, it's my round' and despite all our protests went and got his shout, very good form.

And Hugo, you just need to hit it in any way possible. When you say you and your gf are in an 'off season', this means you can tap up anything you want for a certain period of time and then go back? If so, I want your life.

 

[ShiftyPowers]

Do the two of you drink together? Move on her when she's buzzed. I know it sounds cliche, but still! But yeah, if you're going to proposition her, be as informal about it as possible. You don't want to come off as a dork or someone who is desperate for sex. Be cool about it, like if it's no big thing.

Hahaha, actually yes I drink with all of them. Well, basically I'm just looking for easy answers. I've had a few opportunities with one of them before, but I was always too nice for her sake; I wouldn't touch her because she had a boyfriend. They broke up this summer

I love my bros, but I'm ditching their asses if I've got a hot girl ready to do something; we've all been in that situation and everyone understands. I would expect to get ditched by my friends in the same situation.

 

[hermolt]

That's what you expect, so when they don't, it's like \o/

 

[INFESTA]

Do the two of you drink together? Move on her when she's buzzed. I know it sounds cliche, but still! But yeah, if you're going to proposition her, be as informal about it as possible. You don't want to come off as a dork or someone who is desperate for sex. Be cool about it, like if it's no big thing.

Eh, I was about to say this. Shifty, the few times I had sex with a woman without the feelings involved by mutual consent (not a big fan of it) I din't even ask, you know. Just went out, had a couple drinks, started making out, went to her place. pretty much it.